Every Wednesday, I attend the Idaho Aphasia, Apraxia, and Dysarthria Support Group which is basically a support group for stroke survivors.
Today we shared our experiences like losing friendships after strokes.
It was an eye-opening session for me. All afternoon I’ve been thinking about real friendships.
My mom died almost 6 years ago. On her deathbed, she bluntly told me "Maybe your strokes were a blessing. You can feel sorry for yourself or you can make a difference. You have a choice to make."
Every week I am blessed to gather with my fellow stroke warriors. I am so grateful for their strength.
Mom was right.
Nevertheless, I did lose a lot of friends after my strokes. Many survivors tell the same story.
Some fell away because they were so despondent about the "new me." I get it but it’s sad.
Some so-called friends disappeared because I was not useful anymore. I didn’t have a political action committee perhaps?
Some friends were supportive. For a year or two. But this is a lifetime sentence.
Some call to "catch up" and then I realize they need something. A little political insight? Background information on a business issue?
But I do have real true unwavering friendships that I cherish.
I love those friends and family. Thank you. You know who you are.
A couple of years ago, I deleted at least 600 " "friends and followers" from Facebook and Twitter. I was subjected to bullying trolls mainly for political reasons.
After today’s session, I really thought about the value of real friendships.
When you almost die or when your son gets illness, I have decided I’m not gonna waste my time dealing with toxic people, fake friendships and users. The purge will continue.
For my fellow stroke warriors, this article is for you: